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Posts particularly helpful to those seeking or changing employment

Quitting Benefits

Most people have no idea to what they are entitled when and if they quit their job. AboutUnemployment.org demystifies the rules relating to benefit entitlement upon employee-initiated termination in their article: Can You Collect Unemployment If You Quit?.  

Good cause

If you are laid off or made redundant, you are eligible for unemployment benefits. In the majority of cases, you are also entitled to benefits if you were fired, as long as it was not for gross misconduct. But when you quit your job, eligibility hinges on whether or not there was good cause. Continue reading Quitting Benefits

Do we ask a potential hire what their parents told them when they spilled milk?

It wasn’t Sigmund Freud, but the 19th century poet William Wordsworth who said, The child is the father of man. But Freud, of course, would have agreed in that he argued that most, if not all, of the foundation for who we are as adults is cast in the first five years.

So, what are we to make of this? Are we stuck with our pre-verbal responses to authority, to failure, to success, formed long before we have conscious memory or control? After all, most of us neither remember nor had any say-so over what happened to us when we spilled our milk, refused to be potty trained, tried to please our parents, or told an untruth.

Still, one tenet of psychology is that to understand who we are today, we must understand who we have been. What shaped us to respond so viscerally to criticism and praise, to be driven to achieve or content to do little, to be fiercely independent or reliant on others?

This is where cognitive behavioral psychology makes it debut.

The idea is simple. We tune-in to what we are saying to ourselves in the moment, when we feel unfairly criticized, unappreciated, inadequate, excluded, reviled. When we do, chances are we will actually hear those old messages programmed into our operating systems, long before we had choice. Continue reading Do we ask a potential hire what their parents told them when they spilled milk?

What to do when the hiring manager says: “Name your terms!”

“What will it take to hire you?” These words may be music to your ears, but how you respond makes a big difference. Take your time, collect your thoughts, and follow these seven tips to make the most of the opportunity:

  • Decide you want the job. Make sure you like what the organization does and that the people you would work with give you energy and get energy from you. If you do not like and want the work, or if you do not look forward to spending time with the people every day, a job at any pay will turn into a grind. If not, politely let them know and move on…it is a waste of their time and yours to do otherwise. If you want the job ask for a day or two to discuss it with advisers before getting back to them.
  • Know your worth. Research the web and ask around to learn the current market value for your basket of skills. If you think you might undersell yourself, do some digging to arm yourself with up-to-date information and boost your confidence. On the other hand, be honest with yourself to avoid an inflated sense of worth. Make sure your expectations are reasonable given your compensation history and relative to those with comparable scope and scale of responsibility, experience, and results in your location. Do not go just by job title. For example, a first-time manager of a six-person team is not worth the same compensation as a 15-year veteran who has successfully led a 30-person team over multiple years, even though both are called Project Managers.
  • Buy, don’t sell. Most job seekers pitch to prospective employers hoping to get an offer they can accept or reject. A better approach is to interview potential employers for a place to do important and specific things over the next career interval (as described in The Alliance, by Reid Hoffman). The question is not whether you are good enough for them … it is whether the opportunity is right for you. Make clear what you seek and get them to convince you that they have it.
  • Think in terms over time. When asked: “How much do you want to make?” most reply with what they want in an annual base salary and bonus. A better strategy is to make clear that you want a good chance to earn a specific larger sum over some number of years. Tell them how much you need to live on, but you are OK with the rest being at risk based on personal and organization performance.  For example, you might let them know you want a good shot at earning $500,000 over the next three years and, as long as at least $100,000 is in base and high-probability bonus, the rest can be in upside bonus potential and equity appreciation. The idea is to aim high, but with a reasonable base and bonus given your history and the market for your skills, leaving them with the challenge to show how your bigger goals can be met.
Sample Heads of Agreement
  • Put it in writing. The hiring organization may be inexperienced or unable to pull together and present a written offer. Make it easy for them and position yourself favorably by drafting your own terms. Consider using this Heads of Agreement format to lay out terms important to you in a way that is easy to understand, easy to assimilate, and easy to work with.
  • Label it DRAFT so it is clear you are willing to negotiate, but treat it as an entire package and do not negotiate line-item by line-item. For example, if the organization wants to pay you a lower base, and you can live with that, tell them so but also ask for more (because cash is certain and bonus and equity are not) than an offsetting increase in bonus potential and/or equity.
  • Walk through it. Arrange a time to review your proposal on the phone or, even better, in person. Talk through the terms as you have laid them out and offer to share your it, after refining it based on the discussion, for them to turn into a written offer.
  • Be gracious. When you get written terms, it is critical that you express appreciation, ask lots of clarifying questions to be sure you fully understand the offer, commit to nothing, and ask for time to review with your advisers. You will earn respect by asking for time to review it and leave the best impression possible by not haggling over any items on delivery.

Finally, get back to them with your suggested edits but do not get greedy. When you have what you want…take it!

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What to do when an employee no longer cuts it.

Before terminating an employee for poor performance, first double and triple check that the real problem is not that  expectations are undeveloped, unclear, or not understood and aligned with abilities and interest.

Resist the temptation to reassign the person to another part of the organization in order to not have to deal with the matter. Instead collect, consolidate and review input from the team with respect to what they are good at doing, what they have recently contributed, how they have grown, and what they should focus on doing and accomplishing next.

Validate that the assignment is a good match with employee skills, interests, and experience. If it is, but performance lags, it may be due to distractions or lack of drive. Talk through with the person, tweak incentives if needed, and, if lack of attention and effort is the problem, insist they focus on what has been asked.

If lack of performance is due to shortcoming of ability, consider taking one of the following courses of action:

  • Develop in the person skills that are needed but that are lacking. Be careful, though, to stop short of trying to teach a fish to fly. It is usually better to further develop and capitalize on existing strengths than to overcome weaknesses that essentially define who a person really is. Note: see Gallup’s Strength Finder and Max De Pree’s Management is an Art for further reference along these lines.
  • Complement with strengths of others. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and no one can be good at everything. Getting the full breadth of skills required covered through the mutual contributions of a team of strong performers is often the best way to get the best results.
  • Reassign to a job that is better matched to their strengths and interests as long as the value of doing it is enough to warrant the associated costs.
  • Help them find opportunities to apply their strengths in an organization more likely to have need for what they offer. It may initially seem cruel to let someone go, but it is often a blessing as they know the fit is not right, feel they are living an inauthentic life, and will be relieved to get on track to success in a job for which they are better suited.

If the odds of a person’s success approach zero and there is no longer time or money to invest in trying to make things work, then termination is required. While every situation is different, the following tips are likely to help things go more smoothly:

  • Script the words you will use to communicate the message. Practice a day or two ahead to hear yourself say them out loud in order to get the emotion out. Review with a close advisor, family member, or friend to get their best advice to be sure what you are saying is clear and unambiguous.

Here is an example of an opening script from a recent executive termination:

I am here to discuss with you our path forward.
While I appreciate your efforts and support over the past several months, we have been through a lot and it is time to take stock. I have forced myself to get clear about my team, roles, and how we are going forward. In parallel I have listened to you, gotten to know and understand you and what’s important to you, where you get energy, and your goals, to determine whether and how you fit on my team.

My conclusion is that there is not a good fit for you with the roles available on my team.

Consequently, it is my decision that we need to start now to effect a smooth and deliberate transition for you to move out of the organization. It is important to both of us, and to those we care about, for the transition to be smooth, effective, and not the least bit disruptive.

  • Review recent formal and informal performance assessments to be sure a decision to terminate is not out of sync with prior messages. Frame what is communicated accordingly.
  • Consult with your Human Resources department to:
    •  Get coaching on local laws (e.g., to comply with cases that might evoke actions due to discrimination) and company customs and precedents.
    • Line up mechanics for out-processing; e.g., to pay accrued but unused PTO, arranging COBRA insurance coverage, 401k processing, collect key cards, etc.
  •  Have someone from HR present when you communicate the termination. Get right to the point with as few words as possible. The longer you delay and beat around the bush the harder and more awkward it will be. Follow your script to get the message out.
  • The first reaction is likely to be: “You’re firing me?” Patiently, calmly help them work through these five inevitable stages of emotion:

o Denial (this can’t be happening)
o Anger (you can’t do this)
o Bargaining (what if I …)
o Grief (woe is me)
o Acceptance (I get it).

It helps for you to frame the separation as giving the person an opportunity to get on track to success elsewhere. More often than not they experience relief because thet have quite likely has known for some time that things are not going well.

  • The session in which you communicate the termination should be in a private work space where you can get up and leave when done. Never do it in your office where you would have to end by asking the terminated employee to leave or leave them alone in your office. It is far better for you to be the one to leave and for the HR representative to stay and help with mechanics.
  •  Schedule the meeting for first thing in the morning or last thing of the day to minimize disruption to other office activity. Never terminate on a Friday; far better is to do it on a Monday or a Tuesday to give the luxury of time during the active work week to reach out to others for help and support.
  •  If personal, physical, or information security are at risk it is even more important for someone from HR and/or security to remain present as they collect their things and are escorted out.
  •  Decide what you need from the person beyond the point of termination. Ideally you will need nothing because once you have communicated it is over, their allegiance is to themselves and they need to get on with their lives. The best strategy is to get them all the way out ASAP. No transition. No phase out. Just out.
  • Decide on and document separation terms:
    • What they can take (e.g., computer, documents, data, etc.).
    • Non-disparagement, non-compete, non-solicitation in exchange for severance.
    • Allowance to cover, and/or a referral to, third-party help with resume preparation and job search, a reference, counseling, and extended company-financed insurance benefits.
    • Access to infrastructure such as office facilities, administrative support, email access and forwarding; etc.

Prepare, lean-in to the discomfort, and be thoughtful and compassionate. Letting someone go is hard but when it is the right thing to do it is far easier than the drag on performance and growth from continuing to employ a sub-par performer. Having let go an employee is a badge of honor and a credential for life. In the end it also helps the person, those s/he cares about, the organization, and yourself.

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Three Tips for Early Stage Professionals Seeking Their Next Job

Your first job out of school is NOT a life sentence.  The best move might be to take what you have learned so far and step out to complement it with a whole new set of experiences  before deciding to settle-in somewhere for the long haul.  

While it can seem daunting, if you remember that it is a job to find a job, read all the posts in the Job Search category of this site, and follow these three Tips for Early Stage Professionals, the results may well be worth it:

  • Put your education at the bottom of your resume once you have any work experience. Education is most important only in getting your first job out of school.  From then on it is about what you have done in previous jobs that support and make a case for what you say you want to do next.

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